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Four Choices Every Godly Dad Should Make

As we each experience Father’s Day it is a time we either think of our fathers, or we think of our children.

If you are a father, then this is not only a holiday to enjoy their expressions of kindness to us as their dad, this is also a great time to do a spiritual assessment of how we are doing with what God has charged us to be as godly dads.

The Spirit-Filled
Family of God

Please open with me to Ephesians 6. The greater context of these verses starts in Eph. 5:18, the passage about being filled with the Spirit. We are seeing, from Ephesians 5:18 onward, the results of surrendering to the Spirit-Filled Life.

In Ephesians 6:1-4 we find the fourth result of a list that start way back in 5:21. The Holy Spirit wants to transform every relationship in our lives.

First, every believer is to be transformed by a Spirit-prompted submissive heart v. 21; then in v. 22 wives are to be transformed by a Spirit-prompted submissive heart; then v. 25 husbands are to be transformed by a Spirit-prompted submissive heart; and then in 6:1-4 we find the fourth relationship the Spirit of God wants to transform: fathers and children.

Please stand with me as we hear God’s desires for every dad and every child in Christ’s Church:

Ephesians 6:1-4 (NKJV) Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. 2 “Honor your father and mother,” which is the first commandment with promise: 3 “that it may be well with you and you may live long on the earth.” 4 And you, fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord.

Pray

The first truth we should notice as we look back over the verses we just read is that:

OUR PATTERN IS
GOD'S WORD

The Biblical Family is not subjective. It isn’t up for discussion. God has given the pattern, He has clearly expressed His desires. We are left with the choice to respond and become instruments that carry out His plan.

Paul was teaching a modern, civilized, busy church that had all the activities of a very large Roman city. Ephesus was second only to Rome in its size and importance. So where would Paul go to explain this way that God wanted dad’s and children to operate? v. 2-3 give us a clue: Paul cites the fifth command from Exodus 20:12, and from Deut. 5:16. Paul uses the Old Testament.

Remember the Old Testament is made up of two distinct parts: 1). some short clear instructions from God; and 2). many illustrations from people’s lives of how they obeyed and honored God’s instructions, or disobeyed and neglected His instructions.

In a real sense God’s Word is like a training manual with pictures. The instructions are the manual and the stories of people’s lives are the illustrations. Sometimes just reading the instructions isn’t clear, you need to see how this or that is done.

This week I wanted to upgrade my iMac, but couldn’t afford to have someone else do it. So I ordered the RAM, watched the You Tube clip and voila. The instructions were confusing, but the clip of someone doing the very same things made it easy!

So what should we look for? Good choices that show up in the great dads of God's Word!
There are four I’d like to share, three positive and one negative:

• First, Praying like Job Prayed.
• Second, Obeying like Noah Obeyed.
• Third, Leading like Abraham Led.
• Fourth, Avoiding Eli’s Example of Doing Nothing.

First, as we turn to the Book of Job, what is the key truth about Job, the godly dad? Job was a man of prayer.

CHOICE NUMBER ONE:
PRAYING LIKE JOB PRAYED

From his life we need to grab and copy his habit of prayer. And by the power of God's Spirit start making it characteristic of your life!

The Book of Job is perhaps the oldest book in the world. It is also perhaps the clearest view into the spirit world, the spiritual side of parenting and the cosmic proportion of conflicts we face as we parent and lead as dads. Look at Job 1:5:

Job 1:5 So it was, when the days of feasting had run their course, that Job would send and sanctify them, and he would rise early in the morning and offer burnt offerings [according to] the number of them all. For Job said, "It may be that my sons have sinned and cursed God in their hearts." Thus Job did regularly. (NKJV)

Can we learn something about how to parent our families from Job's like? Yes, some powerful habits he had. There are five distinct elements of Job's parenting habits. You may want to even note these in your Bibles. First,

JOB TRACKED WITH
HIS CHILDREN

Job prayerfully followed the daily life of his children. Note the words, "when the days of feasting".

Job 1:5 So it was, when the days of feasting had run their course, that Job would send and sanctify them, and he would rise early in the morning and offer burnt offerings [according to] the number of them all. For Job said, "It may be that my sons have sinned and cursed God in their hearts." Thus Job did regularly. (NKJV)

He knew what was going on in his children's lives.

He knew their cycle of house visits, parties, their gatherings, and so on.

He was in touch on a daily basis with where they were and where they were headed.

He followed his children around in his heart because he had a godly concern and love for them. ARE YOU FOLLOWING YOUR CHILDRENS LIVES?

You and I will never pray effectively for those who are not regularly on our hearts. Do you jot notes on areas to remember to pray for in their lives? Do you have a list of their challenges, that you ask them about, that you pray for, and that you check with them about?

Start praying for someone regularly, and then ask them about those areas, and the most frequent response from them is: amazement. Most people can’t believe we remember and care. So, make the choice today to prayerfully track with the lives of those you love in consistent prayer. Secondly:

JOB SOUGHT THE
CONSECRATION OF HIS FAMILY

2012JUN17AM

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